“It’s okay,” he said. “You’re safe with me. You’ll always be safe with me."
In that moment, she did feel safe.[...] She knew he was strong, and she felt protected in his arms. He was a vampire. Nothing could hurt him; he couldn’t die. What could be safer?
* * *
She looked at Torren then. Thought of how strong he was, how he’d healed before her very eyes. He was indestructible.My realization that vampirism was--for me, at least--about safety came when I started thinking about why I'd always wanted to be a vampire. Yes, there's something appealing about the intimacy and eroticism of putting your mouth on someone's neck and taking their life force into your body. And yes, most vampires are described as incredibly attractive, if not for their physical appearance then because they have some kind of sensual, magnetic presence. But there's a lot more to it than that.
“Make me a vampire,” she said, and held her breath.
In the majority of stories I've read with vampires in them, the vampires are wealthy and live lives of luxury and leisure. They don't have to work dull jobs in order to eat; they are surrounded by food sources. They seem unaffected by extremes of heat and cold. They don't have to worry about "being in the wrong place at the wrong time" because most people can't hurt them.
Okay, yes, in most vampire stories they have to worry about other supernatural creatures, vampire hunters, sunlight, and wooden stakes. But they're generally smart and incredibly strong and, compared with a human woman, have very little to worry about.
All that said, I found myself thinking more today about my friend's assertion and wondering if there isn't a connection between repressed sexuality and a need for safety. Why do people, and women in particular, repress their sexuality?
Perhaps in part because of cultural norms: a woman who engages in sexual activity with whomever she wishes runs the risk of being labeled a whore or a slut in our society. She might be accused of lacking proper self-esteem. Or, in some cases, might be told she's going to hell. It isn't safe for her to openly explore her sexuality because she might be ostracized. (To be fair, some of these norms also apply to men these days. However, I've never heard a man accused of low self-esteem because he had sex with a lot of people; instead I've heard him accused of lacking respect for his partners because monogamy is the norm in this society.)
It also might be an issue of trust: it takes a certain level of trust to be naked and vulnerable with another person. One needs to know that one's sexual partner will not attempt physical harm and will not say disparaging things about one's body. In other words, one must feel safe with a sexual partner.
Sexually transmitted diseases and the risk of unplanned pregnancy are also a concern. One doesn't want a few hours of pleasure to have unwanted, lifelong consequences.
A vampire, however, is no longer human, and therefore human norms no longer apply. Vampires are already ostracized because of their nature, and their sexual activity isn't going to make a difference one way or the other. A vampire can defend him/herself from physical attack and doesn't have to worry about STDs. Vampires also can't get pregnant (exception: Victor's daughter in Underworld).
What's my point? Well, maybe it's that vampirism is about safety even when it's about sexual repression. That the two are not mutually-exclusive. Maybe sexual repression isn't actually about sex so much as it's about wanting to know we are safe from both physical harm and from condemnation by our community members.
What do you think? Is vampirism more about sex than I've realized?